I chose mander.xyz and feddit.nl partially because neither require an email address. I haven’t really kept track of who all they have and have not defederated from. I think both don’t defederate much. I use the block feature in Connect liberally to remove the communities I don’t care to see, like the tankies.
There’s optical and magnetic/hall effect switches, but those are usually still a linear spring force.
I thought there were some with programmable actuation force profiles, but I can’t find it with a quick search.