People die in work related incidents all the time. The only thing different about deaths from NASA incidents is that they are (usually) spectacular incidents (like massive explosions or cabin fires…not good things, just stunning) and high-profile.
SpaceX does well because they basically ignore Elon.
Proxies aren’t bad they are just dated.
Ironically the big problem with proxies is really that software doesn’t support them properly, usually due to lazy or unknowing devs.