I have always been curious about this. Did you get them to use other services or did they stubbornly refuse and you just accepted it? I am talking using Chrome, using Windows, using social media like Tiktok or Facebook or Instagram, etc. Bonus points if you have kids because that is even more work in the privacy realm
The idea that I would involve myself in my wife’s digital privacy habits seems perverse to me. That is her business. I assume she has sane habits, but I do not interact with her devices.
You can but there’s a point where the SO’s actions actively invade your privacy too against your will.
Real example: My SO uploads all her photos to Google Photos. Because I also appear on those Photos, I am now being tracked/used for training ML models/instrumentalised/whatever other evil things Google does nowadays against my will.
Google doesn’t care whether I consented to that or not.
I understand, and that can be a valid concern. I also appreciate that the particulars of each individual’s setup can be wildly different and constrain the extent to which they’re able to control their digital environment. I am fortunate that my wife and I are both highly computer literate, and that none of us are active on corp-run social media. I could just as easily have been married to someone who sent information about the both of us to Instagram and TikTok a dozen times a day, and if that had been the case, it would have presented a novel set of challenges.
As it is, however, I have the luxury of having a private-minded spouse, a personal phone and a personal computer, the latter two of which constitute the full scope of what I can—and care to—control.
True. And you can talk to your wife about that. But unless you provide a better alternative it’s going to harm her personal workflow. And this goes for your friends, strangers in public, anytime of photos taken that you happen to be around for.
I think the reasonable measure is to concede this point. Your friends are going to be social media users
This. Your wife is another adult that can disagree with you. You can explain, you can present ideas but if you disagree at the point of you considering intervening in her private life you should just break up.